I guess is about time I write something about this topic “Motherhood”. The state of being a Mother. Don’t we all Love our Mothers. I do remember my childhood it was everything a kid can ask of. My dad been a Businessman, and a Contractor we kids go to go to every state he’s working. He will wait till we’re on mid term break from school and pack us all up and travel to the state he has a Contraction work to spend some time with him.

Mom loves that too. So she can get a break from been at home. Those days Men let their wives be a stay at home mothers. To help with few things at home so both won’t be exhausted from work and the world. But not all family have that opportunity to do so. I know back in Nigeria Boarding school is mainly where kids grow up from age 12 till 18 years old then off to College or to marriage depending on your family. 

Well that’s by the way. Before I divert away from my initial topic. When I was little I always pray to have a family just like my parents did. Be a great mom, great parent and care for my kids. Well “Life” happened. My Mom always said everyone has their own finger print, and that’s very true. If my life was what I dreamed off I will be writing another topic by now. 

I read few article on social media that state that Mothers that did C-section are not regarded as Mothers… Well as long as the person carried the baby for months in her body she’s still a “Mother” whether is a natural delivery or not. Let’s give credit to the Mothers is not easy carrying another human being inside yourself for months. Let’s not forget eating for two, peeing every few minutes, and still taking care of the household. 

Not every woman got the opportunity to be Mothers( We should put them in prayers) because every woman we need a kid should have the grace to gain that blessing is the great feeling in the world. I know some women don’t want the role as a mother, and we should all respect that. There are a lot of reasons some chose to be childless in their marriage, and I won’t judge them maybe they went through trauma when they are kids that made them made that decision… and more power to their spouse for supporting them. 

My own experience has been for the past 12 years Oh boy was it fun. Lots of feelings… sometimes I feel like crying, laughing, playing, praying(so much), and been on the phone. They said God give kids and I believe that, but is meant for use parents to do our own role as a parent to the little creature God handed to us. 

When we have the baby is everything in the World till we start staying up late to feed the baby, change diapers, make meals for the family, keep the house clean, put a smile on your face( because you don’t want to be crying with your child.. we’re are not having to console too babies, please…LOL). And look good for our men too because we need to stay stable. Oh Motherhood. I just wonder how did our mothers handle all that during their life time, with no nannies, house helps, raising up to 7 to 8 kids and the men are always out searching for green pasture for his family. 

I remember when my son was little. He’s everything to me( who doesn’t love their mini me… that’s what I call the babies because they are us in a little version). I breastfed him for almost 2 years till that boy start teething ouch “we are done here boy that’s it” I said. Not every mother have to do so; some have to return  to work. For myself I wasn’t working then so I had the privilege to breastfed for over 2 years. ( maybe that’s why he’s so attached to me). I decided to cut the embryonic cord, and let him start school. 

As years go by comes lot of development, mentally, healthy issues, and physical development. I remember the doctor telling me my son has respiratory problem (asthma) which is hereditary. he got it from his dad. I have to do few research on how to tackle the illness. I bought the humidifier and essential oil which I use with distilled water and put in his room to purify the air. It helps to make them feel asleep and breath better. Not just for kids with respiratory health issue I do recommend it for every household. Link below to check it out. Did I mention soothing music helps babies too especially when they are fussing. 

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Am a great believer in giving my kid the vaccine for every stage/ age in his/her life. It helps lesser few health problems. Some parents are adamant on giving their kids vaccine maybe because of culture or religion cases. I Have a vaccine book I keep record of all the vaccine and make sure is up to date if not am calling the doctor’s office right away and book and appointment to have it scheduled. Few days ago on the news they have few children killing because their parent didn’t give them certain immunization. let’s do our own research and see if what we believe in( not giving our kids their vaccine) are with letting them suffer. Let’s not let that happen to people we know. 

I think society especially health care should educate mothers  new and old on the importance of giving our kids the vaccine. There have been few medical problems related to kids giving the wrong vaccination which harmed them, but before any vaccine is given make sure you know what you’re child is receiving, the symptoms, side effects, etc. Visit the link below. 

If you notice I didn’t say much about the pregnancy stage because I believe every woman experience it differently So I don’t want to use my own experience while some other person had a totally different experience. I know they are few ladies who had kids before me whom I can gain knowledge from still. As time goes on is school-age stage. Now there’s the challenging part not just for the parent, but the kids because they have to learn how to be with other people in the society and the most thing parent worry about is the kid bringing home germs, getting sick from personal contact, and dealing with bullies. 

Some school have a zero tolerance with bullies always check with the school about that , and always I know I do this with my son. How was school and know your kids friends, and get to know their parents, too. You can always tell about a kid by their parents personality. Everyone have a different parental skill on how to raise their kids, but I don’t want mine having to deal with me at home, and been a different kid in school. In that way you won’t be surprised when you are called to the school for a meeting because of your kids behavior… we don;t want that. In other cases every family is different am not going to judge any parent the way they raise their kids until it becomes a problem to me when my child is involved. 

Another important thing I will say is be involve in your kids school activities research states it boost the kid performance in school and in life. Always support them. I remember in Nigeria if you are not going to be a Doctor, Lawyer, Engineer or Priest or a Rev Sister your parent will tell you. I won’t spend all these money on you to go and dance on the stage for me… Oh Nigeria parents are very hilarious. Do any other country have that mentality or is it just Nigeria (Africa) parents ?

I have so much to talk about, but I don’t want to bore you all with a long reading today. 

Always remember be involved in your kids life, get them into activities through the church or school to keep them active the world we’re in now is a technology world. Pray, eat , and play together any chance you get. 
Proverbs 22:6 
Isaiah 49:15-16
Proverbs 17:6

Have a Blessed weekend and Happy reading.