I have been dreading to write about this topic. I guess I have to do it.
Growing with seven siblings. Four boys and three girls. It was a full house with Uncles, Aunties, Cousins all around. It was a big family.
Dad was a business contractor so he traveled a lot which made my Mom become a full-time housewife to stay with the kids.
My mom did a lot of things while she’s with us kids. She knows how to cook, bake, sew, and many more things to keep herself busy while we’re in school. And also for distraction, so us kids won’t drive her crazy. Lol.
My dad was disciplinary. Mom doesn’t do much she wait till daddy comes home so she can report us to him, and he can deal with us. Daddy always feels bad after that because he knew he has been on the road, and just want to be with us and spend time instead of disciplining us.
But he has to do it because mommy won’t be happy, and also for us kids to straighten ourselves up when dad leaves again.
When I grew up and had my own family I always knew what kind of parent am going to be.
Some believe in spanking, others might believe in time out or use words to straighten a kid.
I have been through all kind of discipline, and know that one doesn’t work for every kid. I also attended a boarding school in Nigeria so there’s another form of discipline there also.
When I became a Mother. And ended up being a Mother in the states now that’s a whole new ball game when it comes to discipline. Though I don’t tell anyone how to discipline their kids because everyone has their own method. the Country made it in a way parents are now afraid to discipline their kids. That let us (African) parents resistant when it comes to certain disciplines.
I was having a discussing with my Sister because she’s a Mother now so we talk pretty much every day ( not that we don’t talk before), but ones you have the same responsibility like someone else we speak the same language.
We were talking about ” should you allow your kids to make mistakes at an early age and learn from it or pamper them and later they will make that mistake later in age?
I told her as for me I want to make those mistakes early in life, and learn from it, straighten my life together through life lessons then doing it later when I should have it all together.
Then when it comes to discipline I believe different thing works for different people. I know how I discipline my son won’t be the same as everyone else.
Some wait till their kid turns 16 to buy them a phone. But for me due to my work schedules, and life changes I ended up buying my son a phone before he was a teen because I need to keep in touch with him while being away. Or when he’s away visiting his dad in another state.
I also had to stop school for a while to be with him because I want to know my kid. So I won’t be surprised when I hear or someone accuses him of anything I will know what he’s capable of doing. Some doesn’t want to hear their kids did something bad. For me, if my son does anything out of his character we’ll have a talk followed by discipline to let him know mommy doesn’t appreciate such.
I wish I can put him in a bubble, but I can’t. So the rules are laid out is to follow them or we’ll have the talk again.
He is still growing he will still make new friends that have another method of discipline from their family. So I have to make sure he’s grounded in his own training. Not that he won’t slip because trust me kids test their parents’ patience, but am trusting God am doing a great job with him.
Remember Proverb 13:24.
Remember they’re the future leaders of tomorrow. We have to do the right thing raising them to have a better future in our society and the World.
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